The Victimhood Trap: Why Some Women Rally for a Mother Who Murdered Her Kids

For years, the commentary has mostly focused on men — what they need to fix, where they fall short, how they can step up. But now, one prominent voice is turning the lens on women, and the message is blunt: it’s time to get your sh*t together.

In a recent Daily Wire piece titled “The Victimhood Trap Making Women Miserable,” the author argues that women have been seduced by a victimhood narrative that is not supported by the facts. The piece, which has sparked conversation across social media, zeroes in on the protests outside the trial of Lindsay Clancy, the Massachusetts mother who strangled her three young children, including a baby.

Clancy’s case has polarized observers. While many see a tragic case of postpartum psychosis, others — including the author — see something more troubling: women standing outside the courthouse making heart hands and declaring, “I am just like Lindsay.”

The author does not mince words: “If you say you are just like Lindsay Clancy, you should immediately be put into involuntary commitment.”

The Data on Women’s Success

The piece points to an uncomfortable reality: American women are not, by most objective measures, victims. They earn more college degrees than men. They have longer life expectancies. They even out-earn men when adjusted for hours worked and time out of the workforce.

So why the persistent narrative of oppression? The author suggests it’s a phantom — a “phantom patriarchy” that has become a psychological crutch.

Citing a quote from writer Peachy Keenan, the piece lists the remarkable gains women have made: they make more, hold the majority of jobs, dominate college campuses (UCLA undergrad is 60% female), have lower rates of suicide and addiction, and can’t be drafted. They took over the Boy Scouts, ended men’s bathrooms, and fly fighter planes. Marriage is optional, divorce is no-fault, and they win the vast majority of custody battles.

“We are all living in the female future they promised,” Keenan wrote.

Declining Happiness

Yet despite these gains, women’s happiness has steadily declined since the 1980s, according to studies. The author’s controversial conclusion? It’s not the patriarchy, not lack of education, not economic underperformance. It’s singlehood.

Drawing on data, the piece argues that married women are far happier than single women. Married moms are twice as likely to report being very happy as single or childless women. And the unhappiest group of all? Unmarried women with children.

This makes intuitive sense, the author notes. They lack a partner, a spouse, somebody to help protect them and care for the kids.

Men, too, are happier when married with children. “Marriage is good for both men and women,” the piece states flatly, adding that “an entire society built around the idea that marriage is an imposition on women” is telling a lie.

Biology and Compassion

The piece leans heavily on evolutionary biology, arguing that men and women are fundamentally different. Women, driven by compassion, are people-oriented, while men are things-oriented. This explains why women dominate nursing and men dominate mechanics. It also explains why a man left alone for the weekend might pop a beer and watch football, while a woman might phone a friend and go out for lunch.

But when these instincts are misdirected, problems arise. Men channeled away from family become aggressive, antisocial, and destructive. Women, channeled away from family, experience “misdirected compassion” — sympathy for people who don’t deserve it.

That, the author argues, is exactly what’s happening outside the Lindsay Clancy trial. The women protesting are not genuinely concerned about mental illness; they are satisfying a deep need for social connection and a sense of meaningful compassion.

“They want social connection, and when they can’t find a real social connection, if they go online and they find a fake social connection, that’s a pretty good substitute,” the piece reads.

A Call to Women

The author ends with a direct appeal to women: snap out of the victimhood trap. The evidence says you are not victims. The evidence says marriage and family are sources of happiness, not oppression. And the evidence says that sympathizing with someone who murdered her own children is not compassion — it’s a dangerous distortion.

“No women in all of human history have it better than American women,” the piece declares. The question is whether they realize it.

Source: www.dailywire.com — https://www.dailywire.com/news/the-victimhood-trap-making-women-miserable